By Breanna Bowers
“Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.” (Proverbs 17:14)
Common phrases at our house include “Just drop it!” and “Was that really worth it?”
Usually, these statements only come after an argument, mainly between my brother and me. These statements only serve to frustrate me — mostly because I know deep down that they are correct.
Parents know that calming kids down before a fistfight breaks out results in a much happier day for everyone. However, it is not an easy task to calm down frustrated kids.
“Dropping it” is not just a problem among youngsters or siblings. Adults, friends, and family can also have difficulty letting problems go. Most people like to be right.
As Proverbs 17:14 insightfully points out, following through on an argument only results in a dispute, which can cause huge rifts in relationships.
Forgiving or Fighting?
Although difficult, forgiving a person before a fight starts will likely end the argument and exemplify the work of the fruits of the Spirit in your life — specifically peace, patience, and self-control.
The next time a person gets on your nerves, remember that “Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.”
Forgiveness is not the easy option, but it takes a lot more self-control to “drop the matter” than it does to continue the fight.
Prayer
Lord, help me to think twice before I continue an argument. Give me the strength to forgive the other person quickly.
Thank You for forgiving me and for sending Your Son to save me. Amen.
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Breanna Bowers just graduated from high school in Kentucky. She is planning on attending Asbury University in the fall to study elementary education. She lives with her dad, mom, and younger brother (without whom this devotional would not exist).
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